16 June 2013

The days in between Mother's Day and Father's Day

Becoming a parent, for the first time, the third time, the tenth time...it does something to you...physically, spiritually, and mentally. Your life is never the same, before, during, or after that child comes into your life! For the latest addition to our household, I spent quality time thinking about what I wanted to be called. "Mom" didn't fit my nature. "Dad" didn't fit my born-gender. I needed something that fit me. I decided on "Papi," having heard a few other "in-between" parents using that term. It took about a year (once the youngest could talk) that I went from Papi (pop-ee) to Papi (pop-eye). I was good with it...I had my own "name!" May 2010, however, presented a bigger issue than what I would be called...
So, how does a non-mom, non-dad parent find a Hallmark Holiday appropriate for them? For 2010 I celebrated Mother's Day. For 2011, I celebrated Father's Day. Since then, I have been contemplating how I can blend the holidays in the same manner I have blended my life. I think I have an idea...

Mother's Day
Here's a little history on the origins of Mother's Day, if you would like a different spin: http://www.history.com/news/why-the-founder-of-mothers-day-turned-against-it. In our house, we celebrate  Mom, the person who carried each of the three kids for nine months, birthed them, and provides the lap to climb into, the shoulder to cry on, and the comfort each of the children crave throughout their lives.

Father's Day
Inspired by Mother's Day, people looked to creating a counter-part celebration. It was called Father's Day. Here is a little history on the origins of Father's Day. http://www.history.com/topics/fathers-day In our house, the middle child decided he wanted to spend the day with me, so for the last two years, he and I have spent some quality one-on-one time, with steak and a movie, if money and time allow.

Papi's Day
I would like to make a proposal. On a Sunday between Mother's Day and Father's Day, I would like to celebrate the parents who find themselves "between" a mom and a dad. Since Mother's Day is celebrated on the second Sunday in May (in the US) and Father's Day is celebrated on the third Sunday in June (in the US), I think the first Sunday in June should be "Papi's Day." Many of the people I know who fall into this "Papi" category, also fall into some aspect of the GLBT category. In many cities in the US, Pride month, or the month to celebrate GLBT, often falls in June. Therefore, the first Sunday in June would be an ideal time to celebrate those of us who fall in-between mom and dad! I'm going to propose it to our household for 2014 and see how it goes!

So, that's my proposal. I am open to ideas on names, realizing Papi is a word often used for Father in non-English languages. I am going to put some more thought into this through this year. However, I would love to hear from you! Perhaps we can start a revolution and celebrate those parents who fall in-between mom and dad with their very own day!

I would love to hear your ideas and suggestions! Drop me an email. Maybe we can get this idea up and running!

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Do you have someone in your life who is both mom and dad? Or maybe they are a parent, but not really someone you think of as mom or dad? Make sure you celebrate them being in your life!